This year on the 4th of July we found ourselves without any children. Since we are a blended family, our children were spending the holiday with their other families. When we have childless holidays, I normally feel sad and my husband spends the day trying to cheer me up. This holiday we decided to do something different. We spent this Independence Day being independent.
As a blended family, our days of courting and dating were complicated a bit due to the fact that we both already had children. Additionally, for us it was at times even more complicated because I was in graduate school while we were dating. Dating wasn’t high on my priority list and often came in third to our children and my schoolwork. Since we made due with the limited time we did get to have together, now we often find ourselves not knowing what to do when we don’t have our children with us.
So, this Fourth of July, after much discussion and many ideas of how we could spend our time alone, I decided we should to go to my favorite place, Water World. My husband reluctantly agreed thinking we should be planning this as a family outing. However, we enjoyed the day splashing in the water and flying down the slides – just the two of us. We didn’t have to wonder where the kids were, if they were enjoying themselves or behaving, or even if they were being safe. We were able to focus all of our attention on each other.
As we were leaving the parking lot, my husband turned to me and said, “I get it now. That was such a nice day with you. Thank you.” When we don’t take time to nurture our relationships they become weak and we forget how to have fun together.
Take time to have fun together. Do things you love or try new things together. You might be surprised – just as my husband and I were.
– by Kendra Silver, M.S